To my little valentine
Dhaani, yesterday was valentine s day. It is one of the many festivals which we in India have imbibed from the west. It is a day to express love to the special someone/s in your life. We, in the eastern part of the world, have been traditionally shy when it comes to the expression of love. Especially when it has to be done openly. In the west, this comes very naturally. I mean love is love - it happens in the same way across humankind. Its the way of expression which differs.
Thanks to you and God, you do not shy away from showing and showering your love to your parents and friends.S ince you were one year old , you have been welcoming mumma and pappa with the most adorable hugs when we are back from office. You have a complete ritual of Kissy- Huggy - Nosy to express your love. Also you do not leave anyone without one. If you give your Kissy-huggy-Nosy to mumma, you look for pappa in the house to ensure he has not missed out on the wonderful ritual.
Your mum and I , we have been each other's valentine for 15 years now. She has been the most amazing thing which happened to me. While we have not celebrated the valentines day very ceremoniously, the 2nd to 3rd week of February has played a very important role in our valentine life. We celebrate 20th Feb as the day of our togetherness. With your arrival on 18th Feb, this week has become so so so more special.
In this blog, I would want to tell you about what our ( your parents) being each others valentine meant over the years.
1. Always staying in contact - We never let the communication gap surface in our lives. Even when we were in long distance relationship ( for 9 years) , we ensured we talk every day for at least an hour, and hours together mostly. We would ( mostly she would) ensure that we meet every alternate month. She has moved some mountains for this, will tell you about those some other times.
2. Respecting each other`s friends and families - All our friends are common. We have included each other very much in our lives from the very beginning. This helps that most of our plans are common, We also understand that family is a very touchy topic and let the other one take independent decisions when it concerns family.
3. Let each other handle one aspect of our joint life completely- Himani has always trusted me in all my decisions which affect us both especially on money, material, and education. She has also trusted me blindly with all the travel plannings for all these years without being fussy or demanding. I have entrusted her with most of the other things in life eg food, home, health, parenting( and tv/ movies :)
4. Not letting Money gain importance - All our individual monies has been our shared money ( from the very beginning). We never had my money - your money talks. She has entrusted me with investing/ managing any surpluses and we have not questioned each other `s expenses in particular.
5. Not being ultra-ambitious - This might be a bit anti-conventional. Yes, we both have been the product of the ultra-competitive education system of the country. However, we have realized pretty early in our lives that work /career is a part of life and not vice versa. We both have been very particular that our jobs should not take away from our time for each other and our families. This priority has shaped each of our professional decisions and we are proud of it.
6. We don't need our Me Times - We are not very demanding of our respective me times. We would sit in a room together and do our own me thing, we would rather have our we time. We take our +1s to most of our parties and events. It helps that our friends accepted it long back ( or did they have a choice)
7. We both are still small towners - We come from small towns, both your parents. And we like our small townies. We don't need much to be happy or enjoy. Anything which is a display of extravagance normally does not attract us. This also saves us from needing a lot of plans. We would stay at home on most of the weekend - cooking, wining and dining.
8. We got you - For long we have been each other's +1and it was about time we had a +2. And along you came. Dhaani, you are the most wonderful gift we have given ourselves and we would always be grateful for this. If we have to list our biggest achievements - bringing you here is right there - way up on the top. You are both your parents in yourself. And after you were born, it feels that we both were nothing, but a part of you, to become one, Dhaani.
Thanks to you and God, you do not shy away from showing and showering your love to your parents and friends.S ince you were one year old , you have been welcoming mumma and pappa with the most adorable hugs when we are back from office. You have a complete ritual of Kissy- Huggy - Nosy to express your love. Also you do not leave anyone without one. If you give your Kissy-huggy-Nosy to mumma, you look for pappa in the house to ensure he has not missed out on the wonderful ritual.
Your mum and I , we have been each other's valentine for 15 years now. She has been the most amazing thing which happened to me. While we have not celebrated the valentines day very ceremoniously, the 2nd to 3rd week of February has played a very important role in our valentine life. We celebrate 20th Feb as the day of our togetherness. With your arrival on 18th Feb, this week has become so so so more special.
In this blog, I would want to tell you about what our ( your parents) being each others valentine meant over the years.
1. Always staying in contact - We never let the communication gap surface in our lives. Even when we were in long distance relationship ( for 9 years) , we ensured we talk every day for at least an hour, and hours together mostly. We would ( mostly she would) ensure that we meet every alternate month. She has moved some mountains for this, will tell you about those some other times.
2. Respecting each other`s friends and families - All our friends are common. We have included each other very much in our lives from the very beginning. This helps that most of our plans are common, We also understand that family is a very touchy topic and let the other one take independent decisions when it concerns family.
3. Let each other handle one aspect of our joint life completely- Himani has always trusted me in all my decisions which affect us both especially on money, material, and education. She has also trusted me blindly with all the travel plannings for all these years without being fussy or demanding. I have entrusted her with most of the other things in life eg food, home, health, parenting( and tv/ movies :)
4. Not letting Money gain importance - All our individual monies has been our shared money ( from the very beginning). We never had my money - your money talks. She has entrusted me with investing/ managing any surpluses and we have not questioned each other `s expenses in particular.
5. Not being ultra-ambitious - This might be a bit anti-conventional. Yes, we both have been the product of the ultra-competitive education system of the country. However, we have realized pretty early in our lives that work /career is a part of life and not vice versa. We both have been very particular that our jobs should not take away from our time for each other and our families. This priority has shaped each of our professional decisions and we are proud of it.
6. We don't need our Me Times - We are not very demanding of our respective me times. We would sit in a room together and do our own me thing, we would rather have our we time. We take our +1s to most of our parties and events. It helps that our friends accepted it long back ( or did they have a choice)
7. We both are still small towners - We come from small towns, both your parents. And we like our small townies. We don't need much to be happy or enjoy. Anything which is a display of extravagance normally does not attract us. This also saves us from needing a lot of plans. We would stay at home on most of the weekend - cooking, wining and dining.
8. We got you - For long we have been each other's +1and it was about time we had a +2. And along you came. Dhaani, you are the most wonderful gift we have given ourselves and we would always be grateful for this. If we have to list our biggest achievements - bringing you here is right there - way up on the top. You are both your parents in yourself. And after you were born, it feels that we both were nothing, but a part of you, to become one, Dhaani.
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