My daughter - My teacher

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Of all the teachers i had, my kid has been the most efficient.

The above might look like an irony. Should it not be the other way round. The children are supposed to be students and us, the adults are the teachers, right?

Well Yes, most of the times. However, I have realized that it is great to switch roles at times. For, children are great teachers. Its another matter that we adults have been ruined so much by the worldliness that we have not remained student material.

I was watching a video on teachers day where Sadhguru was asked on the importance of teachers day and how do we teach our children. His point was very pertinent. Who is the blissful one between the parent and the child? Should the blissful one teach the worried one or vice versa?

Between me and Dhaani, she is the blissful one. She is the one who has brought within her all the pure learnings of the universe, which are unadulterated with the calculations and biases of life. She has the unconditioned view which allows her to see many perspectives of the same thing. She has the unbiased smile which does not differentiate between a stray dog and a pet. I, very respectfully accept that she is more qualified to be my teacher than I am to be hers.

The above may sound philosophical at the outset, but i have tried to see this with a very practical angle as well. I have tried to understand how Dhaani ( or another kid) would have responded to a particular situation in life/ corporate world. And at times, the perspective has helped me get over with the situation rather easily.

A child s management mantra is very simple. There is no " it depends" to any question. Just to give you an example- try to offer a fruit to a child who has come to your home. If she likes it, she will take it. If she does not, you can't make her take it. It is as simple as that. We, adults, have been so used to saying something and wanting something else that we have confused ourselves. Most of the times, we ourselves do not know between Yes/No. And thus -" it depends" has become the most dependable word for us.

Another thing which we must learn from children is communication skills and the ability to connect with blank strangers. They have the perfect elevator pitch. I have made so many friends in my building just because of dhaani `s elevator antics.  She will look at a stranger, pass the most pleasant smile/ look into the eyes/ do something which will start the communication. It is amazing that children can communicate and strike bongs without speaking a word and we adults have to rely so much on our spoken skills to forge relationships.


Like the above, there are similar patterns in children s behavior and actions. Actions which should be documented as lessons and taught to adults in corporate training sessions. Will try to put words to some of these lessons ( which I have tried to pick up from Dhaani)  in some of the future blogs.





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